On Thursdays we take you to the well - your source for inspiration!Most of us have had the misfortune of running into mean, rude, and even downright cruel people. While we cant always avoid these encounters, we can control our reactions to them. We have the power to neutralize the negativity these people try to inject into our lives. Whether the toxic person is a work colleague, relative, friend, neighbor, or stranger, there are a number of ways to relate to these people that will free you from the hurt, anger, and fear that they spread.Have someone in mind, but not sure if they are truly toxic Toxic people come in many types and express themselves in different ways. There are the jealous attackers, the low self-esteem underminers, and the cowardly gossips. No matter what type you encounter, you can protect your well-being by using these positive coping skills.Deep Breathing: When you are under attack and become upset, your body kicks into the fight-or-flight survival mode. Adrenaline is released and your heart rate increases. By taking some slow, deep breathes inhale for four seconds, hold for a few seconds, and exhale for four seconds, you can bring your body back into balance and release the tension that the attack elicited.Humor to the Rescue: Sometimes a toxic persons verbal comments are so ridiculous that humor can be used to neutralize the situation. After youve taken a deep breathe, look for the humor in the situation and, if appropriate i.e. not with your boss, let your witticism fly.Ban Re-runs: Unpleasant events have a way of staying with us, especially when they remain unresolved. But, replaying painful encounters is like reapplying and tearing off extra Band-Aids to a wound. This doesnt help the wound heal faster, it just hurts us each time theyre ripped off. When you notice your mind starting to replay the painful encounter, consciously stop the replay. You dont have to be repeatedly victimized by the toxic person. You have the power to halt the negativity of the event from tainting the present and the future.Stand Up for Yourself: Sometimes toxic people dont realize how bad their behavior is. Instead of silently serving as their whipping post, respond with grace and dignity. The calm you bring to the situation will amplify their ridiculous behavior and youll come out shining.There will always be toxic people, but by using these positive coping skills you dont have to be victimized by their attacks. Remember: the problem is theirs and you have the power not to let them make it yours. Next time you run into someone looking for a partner for the toxic two-step, you can confidently say that your dance card is full!Related Articles:Letting Go: A Q& A with Dr. Jonathan Alpert Seven Steps to Release Toxic Emotions Technorati Tags: Glam Media, Glam, Tips for Dealing With Difficult People, How to Handle Difficult People, Dealing With Difficult People, Positive Coping Skills, Coping Skills